This chapter invites readers into a deeply personal journey of resilience, faith, and the unyielding power of God’s protective love. Through the lens of her 70 years, the author reflects on life’s unexpected trials, including the heartbreak of a crumbling marriage, the emotional toll of caregiving during her husband’s battle with cancer, and the strength required to rebuild life as a widow.
Anchored by Jeremiah 29:11, the narrative reveals how God’s hand remained present even in the darkest valleys. From navigating the complexities of forgiveness and reconciliation to finding grace in the face of loss, the author shows how faith transforms struggles into profound lessons of growth and perseverance.
Readers will uncover the immense value of trials, which refine character and deepen spiritual maturity, and will be reminded of the restorative power of forgiveness. This is a must-read for anyone seeking hope amidst life’s challenges, offering a testament to God’s faithfulness, the purpose of trials, and the enduring comfort found in His love.
This chapter will leave you inspired to trust in God’s plans and embrace the transformative power of faith, even in the face of adversity.
What life are you choosing to live? Yes, you heard me correctly; what life are YOU choosing to live? I say that because you have the power to take control of your life and your destiny. I know every person’s life is complex, as we are the cumulative effect of all the experiences we’ve gone through, both good and bad. However, I believe no matter your age, or past experiences, you can still accomplish your dreams and live life on your terms. You have the power to live victoriously, and to thrive, no matter where you are in life, no matter what has occurred up to this point, and regardless of what others think. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “the only person you are destined to become is the person YOU decide to be.
Finally, I live a new and different life, doing things I never thought I would do. Helping women take control of their lives personally, financially, and professionally. Though I know we are all on a journey and growth is a lifetime experience, I want to share these four steps that will at least get you started towards living a life from within, where you ignore everything external to you, where you are in control and choose the life you want:
Give yourself permission to put yourself first and take responsibility for your life!
Decide what you want to do, what type of life you want, and believe you can achieve it.
Get started and be resilient – never give up on your goals and dreams.
Create a plan and work that plan.
What I didn’t know earlier in my life and truly believe now is that maintaining a positive attitude and mindset about life will take you further than anything else. You have to know that your life is worth living, that you can accomplish anything you put your mind toward, and that when you focus on the positive things in your life, thankful for every day that you rise, grateful for your ability to serve others as well as yourself, that you can live a better life than you are living if not even your best life.
One of the biggest storms of my 68-year life began in 2003. My 2nd marriage was on shaky grounds. I realized the love that had started 17 years prior was worn away by years of emotional distance, disrespect, and ultimately adultery.
I had separation papers drafted but decided to wait before filing. Only a month later, my husband was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer! I was in shock, and my life was turned upside down. Faced with the decision to leave or stay,
I wondered how it would look to leave my husband when he was sick? More importantly, how would I stay and care for a man who clearly didn’t love me and had been verbally and emotionally abusive during the latter years of our marriage? In the end, I decided to swallow my hurt and pain and become his caregiver because he needed me. This was hard at first – he was not the best patient as he remained his normal confident, if not arrogant, and demanding self.
The things I learned from this experience:
Ask for help! Give yourself permission to admit you can’t do it all. There is no “S” on your chest. Join a support group of people going through the same thing.
Get estate planning advice – Life insurance, living will, POA and last will and testament are just a few components.
Practice self-care. Remember self-care is self love and you need it!
Ladies we have all had winters in our lives, and they may continue. However, you must believe that you have an invincible summer in you despite how blizzardy the winters may be. Yu have a choice in how you live and react to events in your life. Remember, you can be bitter or you can be better!
We as women are often carried by the waves of life doing what others expect of us - we grow up, go to school, focus on our careers, get married, then start taking care of our families. It’s an age-old story that can become a vicious cycle. We live our lives for others, often in a cocoon of comfort and conformity designed by others. We forget, or perhaps never give ourselves permission, to dream or believe that God has ordained us to live purposefully - to inspire and impact others. But often we stay in that cocoon wondering if is too late to dream. Is it too late to for me to discover my divine purpose on this earth?
I totally understand this because these are questions I asked myself. After raising my family and spending 45 years in Corporate America in the Accounting arena I had to ask if that was all there was to life. I knew I lived a suitable life, and perhaps even a good life, but it was not my best life. I had become comfortable playing the role of supporting cast member in my own life versus being the star! You know most people never achieve their dreams or recognize their talents because they are just like some of us – unaware of our possibilities, afraid to take a step out of our comfort zones. We let fear of the unknown and fear of failure keep us where we are, in that safe and seemingly protected space.
My mother used to say: “Never be afraid of change. What’s the worst that could happen? If you fall down, then just get up, dust yourself off and keep on going.” Those words have sustained me throughout my life.
My mother used to say: “Never be afraid of change. What’s the worst that could happen? If you fall down, then just get up, dust yourself off and keep on going.” Those words have sustained me throughout my life.
Carolyn Brooks-Collins, owner and founder of M. Carolyn Brooks-Collins LLC, encourages people to follow their dreams. Carolyn understands women often defer their dreams and goals due to life’s challenges and priorities and is passionate about helping to empower them to transform their lives, step into their purpose and become financially independent.
" You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be." -- Marianne Williamson
Has there ever been a time when you've had a song playing in your head, and you couldn’t stop thinking about it all day? Well, for me, that song is “I’m living my best life….” I know there’s more to it, but I always ruin the rest of it and make up my own lyrics, so I won’t go any farther. However, the song’s hook keeps repeatedly playing in my mind. I would say that’s my mantra and exactly how I feel – At the age of 68, I am finally beginning to live my best life and continue to grow and learn so that my life gets better and better. I am living my life abundantly and expecting great things, including taking the best care of myself.
As we begin to live expectantly, this means all aspects of our lives – professionally, personally, and financially. Included in the “personal” category is the need to take care of our health, both our mental and physical health. Often as we age and enter our 50s, 60’s, and 70’s, we begin to feel we have less control over our lives, especially the physical part. We start to believe that we have to accept that our bodies will begin to break down as a fact of life. We stop doing the things we can maintain our health naturally and start taking more medicine. It is not uncommon to see a group of seasoned citizens sitting around discussing their aches, pains, and drugs. If we are not careful, we can adopt the mindset that this is a normal process and there’s nothing we can do about it!
Know that you have the power to live your dreams by staying focused, motivated, and disciplined. Wherever you are now, know that you are on the right path to bringing your dreams to life. So, start taking control of your life, living it to the fullest, living it expectantly and abundantly. Then you will know the greatness that is in you and start living your best life!
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